Change, it seems to be a word I think of often these days. I find it crazy how much things can change from day to day, week to week, year to year. You really just never know what could happen.
About a month ago, I happen to be in a sitting with a bunch of girls who were much younger then me. The girls ranged from 13-15 and I couldn’t help but listen in on the conversation they were having. I held my tongue for as long as I could, but there came a time where I knew I had to step in. One of the girls is going into the 9th grade, which means she is 14 years old at the most. She was talking to her friends about how she already took some highschool classes and wanted to graduate at 16 so she could get married. At the sound of this my head spun around so fast I thought it was going to fall off.
**Note: In our culture you are some what brainwashed to think you have to get married as young as possible. I would like to say most parents these days don’t encourage this until their daughters are well educated and finish college. This is the responsible and smart thing for every parent to do, but regardless from the time a girl is 5 years old all they hear about is marriage this and marriage that. By the time they are 25 they better have the ball rolling or they are in big “trouble”. Yes, it's stupid I know...but it's the truth**
I was pleased that all her friends thought this statement was a bit crazy, as they all asked her about going to college. She then starts in on a rant about how "hard" life is and at this point I start my classic eye rolling, I couldn’t believe she was serious. I looked this young girl straight in the eyes and tell her how much she is going to laugh at herself when she thinks of this time in her life 10 years from now. Not even 10 years...3 years from now!
I know at every age we all go through something that makes us think the world is going to end. I know better then anyone else, because as much as I hate to admit it I can be a bit dramatic (agh that's really hard for me to say, but I guess that's part of the new me...facing my lovely flaws…but I like to look at it as I’m just a passionate person!). I remember being 15 years old and thinking that every issue I ran into was so important, only later to find how silly it all was because at the end of the day NONE of it mattered. I'm not so sure I will be able to do the same when I look back at this point of my life. Rather then think my issues are silly, I'm sure I will realize that everything happens for a reason even if you don't know it at the time.
It's frightening how much you change as a young adult. I remember being 18 and having numerous conversations on marriage with my other 18 year old friends. I once again LAUGH at the idea that we ever thought we were ready for that at such a young age. I don't think people realize how much they truly change and grow from 18-20, 20-23, 23-25. Each of these years are filled with things that mold us into the people we will become: college, internships, making new friends, moving, jobs, traveling, and so on. I feel like you kind of sell yourself out, if you don't get the chance to really understand who you are before promising your life to someone else. Each year I surprise myself, because although my core values don't change many of my perceptions on life do.
What bothers me even more then what I have stated above, is when you think you know someone but you never really do. You form friendships, you meet people whom you love deeply...but little by little they become someone else, and accepting them for that person becomes extremely difficult because they no longer possess the qualities that made you love them in the first place.
I use to be a person who advocated the idea of getting married at a young age, but the more time goes by the more I realize what a bad idea this is unless you truly are one of the most mature 20 year olds on the face of the earth.
Really random, I know…but just my thoughts for today.
Hope everyone had an awesome 4th of July.... I’m happy to say I had a better one then 2007...at least it didn’t end in tears and that was the goal!
So it looks like I might be on a role when it comes to updating this thing, I don't want to jinx myself! Let's see how long I keep it up.
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